HOW TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT

How to become a better parent may not be the number one concern of those who happened to produce a kid for a reason that is different from love, but surely it is for those whose first reason to have a child is love. Hence, this piece is written for those who became a parent merely out of love for love, to love, to be loved, spread love. 

Every child is unique, so is every parent, so is every home. Hence every situation you experience with your kids is unique and special. Good ones bring happiness, bad ones teach lessons and strengthen you all only if you manage to remain lovingly constructive, respectfully leading, compassionately logical, and rational all the way. 

That is the best strategy to manage any crisis and become a better parent. However, most parents who constantly seek a way to become better parents don't really know who they are. They think they know who they are but all they know is their ideal self, not their real self. Hence, every parenting technique they try to implement fails.

Parenting with love and compassion.

So, the first step to becoming a better parent is to know who you truly are. If you don't, you will end up projecting all your flaws onto your child. Work hard to free yourself from the pain of what your parents failed to give or refused to give you. Heal all the wounds they caused in you. Do not use your child as a tool to heal yourself. That is wrong and a heavy burden for any child.

Secondly, make sure your marriage is working and filled with love and compassion. If you don't have that, do not even try to have a child. If you happened to already have one or two and then work on your marriage on a daily basis as well as on yourself and your parenting skills. Remember, if there is not enough love and compassion in your home, everything you try will fail. 

Only and only then, you can read the subtext of what your kids tell you. Only and only then you can hear their silence. The Purple little book titled "Please Don't Leave Mum," by S.Y.Turner shows how kids can see, feel and hear more than you think you allow them to. Melissa, the main character of the book, tells how she feels and copes with her parents' words and actions. 

Please Don't Leave Mum

It is more effective to teach anything to your kids and transform them through story reading and analyzing it with them. And "Please Don't Leave Mum" by S.Y.Turner is a great book to start with. It is available on Amazon, Apple, and Google Play.  You will become a better parent as long as you approach your kids with love, compassion, and wisdom.